WHY BEGINNERS QUIT DANCING
adapted from an article by Mark Van Schuyver

It is estimated that out of 1,000 folk who think they might enrol in a dance class, perhaps 50 will actually do it. Of these brave 50, only 30 or so will finish the beginner series. Of the 30 only 20 will return for intermediate classes. After one year, maybe 10 will still be dancing.

Why such a high turnover? What makes it so hard to begin? What makes it so hard to stay with it? Let’s examine the top five reasons why people give up before they really get started.

NEWBY ANXIETY

Adults don’t like to look stupid. That’s the bottom line. We adults know how to walk and we don’t like to crawl. When new student ‘John Doe’ walks into that first dance lesson, he is no longer Mr Big. At that moment, gone is the respect of family, friends and co-workers. Zero is the value of his BA, MBA or Ph.D. Years of jogging, golfing, skiing and batting will not help. Suddenly big John is a kindergarten child again. He’s a little kid, a ‘baby dancer’, newby-know-nothing. This is simply not a condition that adults like to be in.

Newby anxiety is absolutely normal and completely unavoidable. New students can increase their odds of staying with the dance by realising that this is a price that every single person must pay if they wish to play. Knowing that you are not alone helps a lot. Ask other beginners, intermediate, advanced dancers and your instructors to share their newby stories with you. You are not alone John Doe!

FEAR OF REJECTION

It is human nature to seek acceptance and avoid rejection. New dancers enter a world of men and ladies who seem to know everything while they know virtually nothing. To a newby, the dance floor is so scary it might as well be made of ice. Fear of rejection by experienced or even other beginner dancers is very real.

New dancers take heart. A very high percentage of experienced dancers will say yes to a beginner man or lady if asked politely. Tell the person that you are just starting and don’t worry about doing anything fancy. Ladies must ask too. In dance studio environments it is perfectly acceptable for ladies to ask men to dance.

If you are a beginner man, give clear leads and never force your partner. Stay with basics and don’t forget to smile! Remember that three basic steps done well are better than a hundred fancy moves led badly.

If you are a beginner lady, keep cool and relaxed. Listen to the music and led the man put you where he wants you. If you miss a lead, just laugh and keep dancing. Don’t apologise or freeze up. Just relax and follow, you’ll be fine.

Men and ladies, always thank your partner regardless of relative skill.

BAD PLANNING

Lots of dancers quit because they fail to plan for dancing. Dance lessons take time and social dancing takes time and special planning. Babysitters, practice partners, phone calls to find out where folk are going to meet all take time and energy. Without planning, dancing loses it’s priority status in our lives.

If you find yourself thinking ‘I’ll go out next week’, you may be on your way to quitting. In the beginning it is important to discipline yourself to attend classes and social dances. Plan for dancing. Don’t lose your momentum.

FAILURE TO PRACTICE

Failure to practice is a major cause of frustration for all dancers. That which is not practiced will not be remembered. Studies have been done on this. New material should be practiced within 10 minutes of learning. Then practice again within 2 hours of a lesson. More practice should be done within 24 hours if possible to ensure retention. Then, weekly practice is needed to maintain the material and advance the skill.

This schedule of practice is only a minimal amount – just enough to make us remember. To get better, to perfect a new skill or dance technique, we need to practice. Learning is hard. Practice is essential.

STOP AND START

Many students drop in and out of classes. With each return effort, these students demonstrate beginner-bravery but lose learner-momentum. With each return, they drop out sooner and return even later. Without exception, every one of these stop and starters quit before obtaining any significant skill.

A body in motion tends to stay in motion. If you are a beginner who is serious about dancing, don’t stop. If you must miss classes and social events, then dance in your house or in your hotel room. Do not stop as it greatly reduces your odds of reaching your goal of becoming a great dancer. Find a way to dance every day.

CONCLUSION

If it is true that only ten out of 1,000 people who start dancing stay with it then it is a huge accomplishment to be one of those ten. If you are a beginner and you stay with it, you will soon become a member of a special community of brave souls who did not quit. You will enter a world of folk who did not give up when the newcomer anxiety bug struck. You will join a group of people who overcame their fear of rejection and kept dancing anyway. You will see people that did not forget to plan to dance, folk who practiced hard and stayed with it every day - students who did not stop and start. In short, you will see yourself.

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